Pay Attention Dudebros: This Is How Geekdom is Supposed to Work

After I posted about my first comic con yesterday, I tweeted a link to the post out into the Twittersphere. Not even thirty seconds later, this popped up in Tweetdeck.


Cynics out there are no doubt thinking, “This guy is just phishing for followers and you took the bait hook, line, and sinker.” Even if that were the case (and I highly doubt that it is), these tweets made me smile and thoroughly made my day.

To me, geekdom is all about being inclusive, about being able to thoroughly wig out together about books, movies, and games in crazy ways that make people outside of our tribe wonder whether our parents exposed us to radioactive ooze when we were kids.

With all of the crap going on in fandom right now from the tight, finely crafted misogynistic turds of the SFWA bulletin controversy to the smeary, sour-smelling sexist bullshit of the Fake Geek Girl, it was beyond wonderful to have someone take time out of their day (even sixty seconds of it) and reach out to welcome me to comic fandom.

Few things matter more to human beings than acceptance of who we are, and to me, the phrase “you are now one of us” is the primary tenet of geekdom. The keystone, the motto, the secret sauce. Acceptance is to geekdom what a motherboard is to a computer, what the sun is to flowers, what siracha is to pho. Without acceptance, geeks are no better than the “jocks” and “beautiful people” who picked on us as kids.

You are a class act, Tony B. Kim. You know how to do geekdom right. You embody the meaning of Wicked Awesome, and it is my hope other fans follow your super-nerdy example.

This, folks, is how geekdom is meant to be. No gatekeeping. No admission fee. Just people standing by the door with phasers strapped to their belts and their arms wide open, saying:

“You are now one of us!”


  1. mynda says:

    Well written. Brava!
    It’s something I was astounded with since my first Comic Con last year. A sense of home, a “belongingness,” if you will.

    Most of us, masked or not, were free to be our true selves. And, that truth, once realized, makes it impossible to return to the lie. We changed for the better.

    All this from Comic Con?
    Yes. I like my rose colored glasses, and purposely keep them firmly in place. Geeks like these have a lot to teach the world and maybe even a lesson or two for a few of their own elite.

    May your freak flag fly high my friend.
    It is beautiful indeed!


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